How to Be a Person After God’s Own Heart

Lessons from the Life of David

David is one of the most referenced people in the Bible—not just because he killed Goliath or became king, but because he was called “a man after God’s own heart” (1 Samuel 13:14).

But what does it actually mean to be “after God’s own heart”?

It means David’s greatest pursuit wasn’t the throne, the title, or even victory in battle. His life’s purpose was simple: to love God deeply and live in close relationship with Him. Whenever David sinned or grieved God’s heart, he repented quickly. He didn’t run away from God—he ran toward Him. When Jesus was asked the greatest commandment, He answered:

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.” (Matthew 22:37)

Before you start a business, launch a ministry, or chase your dreams, Jesus says the first thing He wants is your heart. That’s the foundation for everything else.

God Is Looking for People Who Pursue His Heart

In 1 Samuel 16:7, God told Samuel:

“The Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”

God’s eyes still search the earth for people who are fully His (2 Chronicles 16:9). He’s not looking for perfect résumés or flawless records—He’s looking for hearts loyal to Him.

Bethlehem: The Season of Obscurity in David’s Life

David’s first 17 years were spent in Bethlehem—his “hidden years.” He was out in the fields, tending sheep, often overlooked even by his family. But this is where God shaped him into a man after His own heart. Bethlehem teaches us that God often forms His people in obscurity before He promotes them in public. In obscurity:

• You learn God’s Word – David didn’t have formal schooling; he learned through family tradition and personal meditation.

• You guard your heart – Time alone with God shapes what you allow into your life.

• You stay repentant – A soft heart is quick to respond to God’s correction.

• You love God for who He is – Not just for what He does.

Don’t Rush God’s Timing

David was anointed king as a teenager—but it would be 20 years before he ruled over all Israel. In those years, God prepared him through service, battles, and seasons of waiting.

We live in a “fast-track” culture, but spiritual maturity takes time. Some lessons—especially learning to trust God’s timing—can only be learned in the quiet places.

Let God Position You

David never promoted himself. Even when given opportunities to push himself forward, he trusted God to open the right doors at the right time. When Samuel told Jesse, “We will not sit down until he comes here” (1 Samuel 16:11), it was a picture of God’s commitment to bring David into position at the right time.

How to Be a Person After God’s Own Heart

If you want to be like David, here are six biblical steps to pursue God’s heart:

1. Spend time in God’s Word – Let Scripture shape your thoughts and decisions.

2. Guard your heart – Protect intimacy with God from compromise and distraction.

3. Stay repentant – Allow God to change how you think so your life changes.

4. Love God for who He is – Not just for His blessings.

5. Embrace seasons of obscurity – Let God prepare you before public assignment.

6. Let Him promote you – Trust His process instead of forcing opportunities.

Why This Matters for Us Today

At The Gathering, we believe revival happens when everyday believers seek God’s heart—not just pastors or leaders. It’s not enough for revival to happen behind the pulpit; it must overflow into our homes, workplaces, and neighborhoods. When we fast and pray, we’re not just asking for God’s hand of blessing—we’re seeking His heart. This month, let’s be a people after God’s own heart—marked not by appearance, accomplishments, or position, but by loyalty, intimacy, and obedience to Him.